Understanding MC Terminology

Contracts

Think of contracts as your personal action plan for the short term, that you developed at the conclusion of your group work time. They’re like little promises you make to yourself which will initiate the first step towards a solution. Instead of saying, “I should finish this report,” try phrasing it as, “I will complete the first draft of Section A, B and C of my report by Tuesday.”

Example: “I will email (or schedule a meeting with) my supervisor to discuss my project proposal by next week.”

Strokes

Strokes are like little rewards or pats on the back. They’re a way of recognizing and appreciating someone’s contributions to the circle. They are shared at the end of each circle meeting.

Example: “Thank you for sharing your insights on that challenging project. Your perspective was really helpful.”

A stroke is like a gift. When receiving a stroke, do not deny or reject the gesture of gratitude. Instead, the appropriate response is:

• Thank you!

Pigs

Pigs are internalized oppressions. They are those little voices in our heads that tell us we're not good or capable enough.  They are myths that make us believe that we are not good enough, that we should always act in a certain way, or that we are always responsible for someone else’s own responsibilities. They might occasionally surface as part of group work.

Example: “I'm such a failure for not finishing that report on time.” 

“I am failing as a mentor because my student never submits their update reports on time.”

“I am not a strong leader because I have little experience.”

Rescues

Are things to avoid during group work. A rescue is when you swoop in and solve someone else‘s problem for them. Instead, try to support, guide, and encourage them to form their own solution plan.

Example: Instead of saying, “You should do it this way,” you might say, “What are some challenges you’re facing in completing this task?”

Let's practice!

• Can anyone give me an example of a contract they might set for themselves?

• What’s a stroke you’ve received recently?

• How might you identify a “pig” in your own thoughts?