Men of PEACC
To get involved with Men of PEACC Contact us at our email address: peacc [at] louisville.edu
“Rape will not end until ALL men become part of the solution.”
The Men of PEACC program was formed at the University of Louisville to work with the existing PEACC center in counseling survivors of sexual assault, perform seminars about consent and risk reduction, but in my mind, I like to say it was formed to encourage those “good” guys to stand up tall and be more outspoken with other good guys.
“My role is that I offer presentations encouraging men to join the fight against dating violence; our slogan is “Rape will not end until ALL men become part of the solution.” Sexual assault is not the most popular topic to talk about with a group of guys, so I like to challenge guys to put the issue in the forefront, such as what do you do if one of your good and trusted friends is trying to take an extremely intoxicated girl back to his place, or even just isolate her; you know the situation is wrong, but nobody wants to possibly upset their friend; is it uncool to tell him to slow down? Maybe he does just want to talk to her, but the main point is that you just don’t know unless you ask him if he realizes what he is doing. Even with sober couples, there is no way of knowing if you have consent unless you ask. I know it doesn’t sound like the cool thing to do, but I think a lot of girls would appreciate knowing that her partner respects her and wants to take her feelings into consideration; and not go any farther unless she is ready. If may seem awkward for a guy to ask for consent, but trust me, a few seconds of awkwardness will go a LONG WAY.” - Jason Wade, former MEN of PEACC coordinator
Ways that MEN can work as allies to eliminate violence against women:
- Care by showing society that all men are NOT RAPISTS
- Help a woman that you suspect has been sexually assaulted or abused.
- Seek professional help if you are or have been emotionally, psychologically, physically, or sexually abusive
- Urge a brother, friend, classmate, or teammate who is abusing his female partner to get help
- Mentor and teach young boys about how to be men in ways that don’t involve degrading and abusing girls and women
Quotes by Men
“Being ‘one of the guys’ is easy, but it takes real courage for men to speak out about men’s violence against women. Fortunately, more and more men are beginning to rise to the challenge.” -Jackson Katz Co-founder “Mentors in Violence Prevention Program (MVP), creator of educational videos: Tough Guise: Violence, Media, and the Crisis in Masculinity (2000), Wrestling With Manhood (2002) and Spin the Bottle: Sex, Lies and Alcohol (2004)
“I pledge to never commit, condone, or remain silent about relationship violence and sexual violence."
"I pledge to never coerce or trick anyone I know into having sex, or to pressure them into any kind of unwanted physical contact.I will always seek clear communication instead of assuming consent."
I choose to respect, listen to and seek equality with every person I date, and every person I know.” -Ben Atherton-Zeman, creator Voices of Men.
"This movement is about challenging what men say to each other in all male environments, how we raise our boys, and how we talk about women, which limits who men are. Violence against women is a men's issue and men have to confront other men, otherwise, it won't end." -Don McPherson, Director Sports Leadership Institute